Upon entering marriage I found myself believing that my husband would complete me...that he would be my prince charming, my Mr. Right. You know...we grow up believing these things, looking forward to them.
At some point in time though you have to grow up and realize that your spouse is a person and is not perfect.
Once we realize this we have a choice. We can either become bitter and disillusioned and possibly walk the road toward divorce or we can embrace the fact that God has other plans to make us whole. There is a longing within us that only God is meant to fulfill and when we expect a person to complete us we are setting them up to fail.
Today I began a dialogue with a person very close to me about this same dynamic within the church.
I also became a regular church attender with an idealistic expectation of what that meant and what I would get out of it. But again at some point I had to grow up and realize that it's okay if the church does not meet my every spiritual need.
Maybe God wants to grow my faith during our alone time or through my job at the Christian coffeehouse I work at. Maybe God wants to stretch me as I minister to my neighbors or interact with my kids.
I also became a regular church attender with an idealistic expectation of what that meant and what I would get out of it. But again at some point I had to grow up and realize that it's okay if the church does not meet my every spiritual need.
Maybe God wants to grow my faith during our alone time or through my job at the Christian coffeehouse I work at. Maybe God wants to stretch me as I minister to my neighbors or interact with my kids.
My church experience and my marriage have both greatly benefited from me attempting to extend unconditional love and lowering my expectations. Not only are my relationships stronger but I am a happier and healthier person too.
Lots of love...
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